WITH EDITOR, KATE FREUD
Kate Freud, editor of Baby London, Little London, Baby Surrey and Baby Hampshire, a mother of two (Jago, 6 and Georgia, 3) with a third on the way, shares her tips for balancing work and family life when pregnant.
Learn to Prioritise
Write lists, and work out what the most important things to do that day are. When you’re pregnant it’s easy to go into a manic-organising mode, but try and go easy on yourself, you will get everything done, but it’s not the end of the world if it doesn’t happen immediately.
This one has taken me a long time to learn, but when you’re pregnant it’s important to be more selective about what you say yes to, especially in the third trimester. I hate letting people down, so I always agree to everything then regret it when I am exhausted. The secret is to tell people you will see how you feel nearer the time!
Take time for yourself
It is so important to look after yourself when pregnant. Book a massage, or a facial, or go for a walk or a swim when you are not working! Just something where you can slow down the pace, and indulge yourself a little. You won’t have much time for this with a new baby in tow, so now is a perfect time.
Say yes to help
Don’t be proud! Again this took me a long time to learn, but it has made for a much easier third pregnancy. If someone offers to help you with something at work or take your kids for a playdate, say yes! Any offer of help should be jumped at.
Rest when you can
Even when you don’t feel like it, if you get ten minutes to yourself, put your feet up. It is the best thing for you and baby, and will stand you in good stead for when your baby arrives and you’re sleep-deprived.
Don’t feel guilty
Being a mother and feeling guilty seem to go hand in hand, but try not to let them. If your kids end up spending more time with your husband/ family/friends whilst you are pregnant, don’t worry about it! If you try and be all things to all people the only person who really suffers is you.
Listen to your body
In the third trimester when you’re getting a few aches and pains here and there, take this as your body’s way of telling you to go easy. Don’t overdo it, rest and once in a while let someone else make supper, run around after the kids or do bathtime.
When I was pregnant with my son, Jago, six years ago, I learnt to cat nap and it has stood me in good stead ever since. Even if I just have ten minutes, I set an alarm, lie on my bed and close my eyes and I always wake up feeling 100 times better. And with a new baby, this proves an absolute godsend!
With thanks to Kate X