Sarah Clark is a freelance fashion editor, stylist and founder of Little Spree. She previously worked at Stella, Red, Glamour and Marie Claire magazines. She lives in Petersham, Richmond with her two seven-year-old twins, Tabitha and Marlow; her husband Tom and their two Burmese cats, Duchess and Miu Miu. We caught up with Sarah to talk about motherhood and mini-me style with her adorable daughter Tabitha.
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY! WHAT DOES MOTHERHOOD MEAN TO YOU?
Thank you! That’s such a hard thing to sum up, but I would say it’s a huge privilege to experience. Not everyone (who wants it) is lucky enough to become a mother, and pregnancy was not straightforward for me. I feel blessed to have two wonderful, healthy children.
HOW HAS MOTHERHOOD CHANGED YOU?
It makes you see everything differently. Your whole focus shifts from yourself to your child/children. You view the whole world differently.
WHAT ARE SOME THINGS YOU’VE LEARNT SINCE BECOMING A MOTHER?
Definitely to become less selfish; to look at things from different perspectives; and to be more ‘present’ and ‘in the moment (I’m still working on this one, but I’m getting better) – just enjoying something for what it is, rather than always thinking about what you’re going to be doing next…
WHAT ARE THE MOST SIMILAR THINGS ABOUT YOU AND TABITHA?
Her sense of fun. We both love being silly and having a laugh, for no particular reason – I think it’s so important to be able to just have a good laugh sometimes – it really is such a tonic. She is also a big day-dreamer with a great imagination and is really creative/artistic. She loves all kind of animals, and is very nurturing and caring – she loves to look after people. I like to think these are some qualities that we both share. She can also be very single-minded and stubborn, as can I.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNT FROM HER?
To look at the world more simply, and to wonder and appreciate the things in our everyday lives that we often just take for granted. But to also question things.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE THING TO DO TOGETHER?
We love to play hairdressers! She loves to do my hair and give me ‘a make-over’ as she calls it. She then takes pictures on my phone of the back to show me the final look. She has a great bedside manner! She’s very good at talking you through what’s she’s doing. We also love reading together and playing with her Maileg mice. When you have twins you tend to do most things with both of them, so it’s lovely when I get some one-on-one time with each of them.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE BEST THING ABOUT BEING A MOTHER?
Being called Mummy (or Mama as mine often call me).
WHAT WILL YOU & TABITHA BE WEARING FOR MOTHER’S DAY?
I’m not sure yet (I’m not much of an outfit planner – I normally decide on the day), but I’m sure Tabitha would love to wear something similar to me, so we probably will! Maybe our jumpsuits? Although I’m quite jealous of hers now!!
Tabitha actually pointed out that I have another white dress that is much more similar to the one I’m wearing here (Isabel Marant Etoile dress). I think she wanted it to be as ‘mini-me’ as possible!
DOES TABITHA LOVE WEARING MINI-ME OUTFITS?
Yes, she loves it!! We have a few things that are very similar, and if she sees I’m wearing something in the morning and that she has a version of, she will often go and change. I think most little girls want to emulate their mummies. When we were doing some of the pictures in Petersham Nurseries on Sunday, people kept stopping to tell us how cute we looked, which is pretty funny when you’re a grown woman!! Tabitha loved it of course!
ANY TIPS ON HOW TO ROCK THE ‘MUMMY AND ME’ LOOK?
Hmm, I think if you’re going to go for it, be prepared for people to stare. But it’s pretty funny! The more similar your outfits, the more stares you’re going to get! I think it’s fun for a special occasion. Sometimes it’s nice just to do a hint of a ‘mini-me’ – matching little basket bags for example, or the same coloured shoes…
When the twins were babies I sometimes used to dress them like me, but completely subconsciously (I was way too tired to coordinate anything, let alone outfits…). So I would get down the street and wonder why everyone was looking at us and smiling? Then I looked down at myself and realised we were all wearing matching Breton tops. I guess matching your twins eclipses ‘mini-me’s’.
IF YOU COULD SAY ONE THING TO YOUR PAST SELF WHAT WOULD YOU SAY?
Stop being so self-conscious and try to care a bit less about what other people think of you.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO NEW MOTHERS?
Be kinder to yourself and less critical. You can only do your best. Motherhood is, by far, the hardest job I have ever done. In the beginning, I found it an incredibly tough, lonely and isolating time. And to gratefully accept any offers of help! And once you’ve come up for air and found your feet, enjoy it – it really does all go so quickly. One day you wake up and you are the mother of two seven-year-olds!! How did that happen?
With thanks to Sarah X
Photos taken by: Vanessa Leuthold