WITH BELINDA LOVE
OF RAISING LITTLE WOMEN
Get To Know Belinda
Belinda is the proud mother of four beautiful girls; Emma (6), Eden (4), Eléa (2) and Esmé (9m), all delivered by caesarian section. She has been married to her best friend for almost 11 years, who works endless hours to make it possible for her to be at home with their girls. Belinda has a background in photography but has not been able to return back to work since adding their fourth last summer and starting homeschool two weeks later. She currently resides in Los Angeles but has been dreaming of moving away to live a simpler life.
We chat with Belinda about motherhood, homeschooling and raising four girls. Read our interview with her below.
What Does Motherhood Mean To You?
Ever since I could remember, I always dreamed of being a mother. Six years ago, that prayer came true, and I’ve never been happier and more tired in my life! Motherhood means that my heart will forever be walking outside my body.
How Did You Feel The First Time You Found Out You Were Going To Be A Mother?
I was excited and overjoyed but also extremely terrified at the same time! We had been looking forward to that positive pregnancy test, but doubt in myself also crossed my mind. No one can prepare you for all the hormonal changes and everything that motherhood requires from you.
How Has Motherhood Changed You?
Motherhood has definitely changed me for the better! It has taught me that I am capable of things I never knew I could do, like function without sleep. And I have completely lowered my standards in regards to daily showers with a newborn in the house. But I also never knew I could love someone so much without even laying eyes on them, or constantly wonder how I lived so long without them. Motherhood is happiness, and what I considered happiness before babies doesn’t even compare.
Motherhood means that my heart will forever be walking outside my body.
Absolutely, every single day it is something different! With breastfeeding, sleep, weaning, potty training… every stage has its challenges, but I choose to see the challenges as a way for us to grow closer. It is all about perspective.
You Homeschool Your Daughters, What Made You Decide To Go Down This Route?
There are several factors that went into our decision but here are three.
Flexibility: Homeschool allows us to travel and take school with us without getting behind. And gives me the flexibility to choose the curriculum that I want and impose the values that are important to our family.
Time: Increased quality family time. And time for our children to forge a deep bond with their siblings.
Lastly, I don’t want my children stuck in a system that doesn’t always serve them well. Every child learns differently and homeschool allows me to personalize learning for each child.
What Positive Aspects Do You Think Has Come From This?
We’ve always been close, but somehow the bond between the girls & I have become so much stronger. Together we have learned to figure things out and get things done even when we might not feel like it.
What Do You Love Most About Being A Home Educator?
Without a doubt, all the time I get to spend with my girls! I’m cherishing these days because my future self already misses them!
Is There Anything About Motherhood That Has Surprised You?
How hard it is! You hear people say it all the time, but it’s not until you are experiencing it that you completely understand what they are talking about. But it is also the most wonderful thing I’ve been blessed with! It has brought me so much joy and sense of worth that I could never have imagined. And I also get paid in “I love you” and cuddles on the daily, and that is equivalent to gold in my book.
How Do You Juggle Everything & Make Time For Yourself?
If I am being honest, I have never been good at making time for myself. But that has been my only goal this year. I’ve realized how important that is, and I cannot give to my family if I am not filled. So even if it means just a solo walk around the block with our dog or finding some quiet time to read, I need to figure out a way to give myself that a couple times a week. I’ve realized after having children, that quiet time is my love language.
What Has Been The Most Memorable Moment You’ve Had Since Becoming a Mother?
The most memorable moment has to be the birth of each of my girls. How they immediately knew who I was just by the sound of my voice. And the best thing is that in that very moment they need me just as much as I need them. I love the quote by Paulo Coelho “I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you.”
What Is The One Thing You Want To Teach Your Children?
To question everything and be brave enough to stand up for what is right even if it is not the popular thing to do.
And Finally, What Advice Would You Give To New Mothers?
Snuggle as much as you can because the years are short & embrace the daily chaos because again, the years are short 🙂
With thanks to Belinda X