5 THINGS MY CHILDREN HAVE TAUGHT ME:
HOW TO LOVE
The love you feel when you have your kids is different from the love you knew with your husband or partner…both are a mix of fear and excitement, sure, but with your child, you have an overwhelming feeling of total responsibility for another person. You give yourself over to your child differently than your partner. You sacrifice anything and everything for the little being sleeping in your arms. There is nothing more profound than the love you feel as a parent. When you hold your baby for the first time and an intense love you never imagined before surges through your body, you learn at that moment what real love is and you learn that the only way to love is to be completely open.
From public nursing fears to extreme toddler meltdowns I have learned to brush it off. I think I might even be able to tap into some zen-mother power and prevent my face from turning red no matter how humiliating the scenario. I want my kids to be strong and confident but the only way they will learn is if I lead by example. Sometimes I want to curl up under the covers or run away but I think of them and I have the courage to do anything. I will do whatever it takes.
This is a tough one. When you have children you marvel at their curiosity and sense of wonder. They are just figuring the world out and their place in it. If I am constantly rushing around and losing my temper it stifles their growth and they will become impatient drones. The world moves so fast. In the blink of an eye, my little infants are off and running and going to school! Life is short, yes, but it is also long enough for us to slow down a bit, take our time and be patient with everyone.
TO BE FEARLESS
OK, this one is tricky because as a mother, fear is always there. BUT overcoming it is something my children teach me every day. Jump in with two feet. Go for it. Ryder, Siella and Gemma aren’t afraid of anything. They climb to the top of every jungle gym and jump right into the deep end and are willing to try anything. It gives me the courage to be fearless, too.
TO BE PRESENT
The most important thing I have learned from my kids and still practice every day: to be present. I love and respect my children and I want them to feel that when we are together. I want them to know that when I am with them—I am really with them. Unplugging is hard, especially when you’re trying to run a blog. I work constantly and that work often includes them so it is important to put all that aside sometimes and BE together. I often beat myself up about this especially if I have to miss out on a few things here and there (which is rare) but I know that my kids will be proud that I have a profession outside of being a mum and I hope they see my work ethic and are inspired by it.